• Got Your ACE Score? My Adverse Childhood Experience score (by their measure) is 4, which probably explains some of the health and financial difficulties I face. My Resilience is 7, and seems to be rising.
  • How to repair the toxic legacy of a bad mother - angry, controlling, narcissistic, envious, emotionally unavailable, and what effect that has on the child. (But then again, my mother was heroic, raising us alone after our father died, encouraging us to read widely, listen to music, and look after our health, a social innovator too, a public speaker, and an unsung war hero.)


  • Alice Miller - essentially argues that we all need sufficiently enlightened witnesses in order to grow in to healthy adults. I absolutely agree with her. Life-changing reading.
  • Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis Herman . Chapter 1 A Forgotten History is, in my view, an essential read for anyone who's interested in psychoanalysis and the evolution of modern psychotherapy. In a few words, my take away is that Freud sold out the sexually abused women at Chartres who taught him what they needed to heal. He sold them out to have his career among patriarchal men, and he went on to invent various "complexes" that never made much sense to me. That aside, I learned that modern psychotherapy was born out of emerging feminism and the returning veterans of the Vietnam war.